Sunday, August 31, 2008

Relationship tip: Never say “never” or “always”

When you are seriously arguing or engaged in a heated discussion with anyone (boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, a friend, etc), never use the words “never” and “always.” For example, never say, “You are never early for our appointments” or “You are always late.”

As Bill and Lynn Hybells say in their book “Fit To Be Tied”:

“If we want our grievances to be taken seriously we must make accurate, truthful, realistic statements. Always and never will always – well, almost always – shift the focus away from the real issue.”